Improving Your Romantic Relationships Improving Your Spiritual Health Dr Raven Dolick MsD

Improving Your Romantic Relationships

Improving Your Spiritual Health

Dr Raven Dolick MsD

Apr 16, 2016

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Most people are unaware that the chakras and the energy flow through your body and mind can have a major impact on the vibration you give out.

Are you one of the many couples that are feeling disconnected from their partners? With divorce becoming a normal everyday situation, there is more need than ever to make your relationship a priority, but it seems like another date night just isn't going to fix things.

Sometimes it takes a little more than an occasional night out to fix a relationship that has gone downhill. Although you love each other, you are having trouble connecting on different levels and can't understand how to make the other person happy.

What if the secret to improving your romantic relationships lies in improving your spiritual health? No, I'm not suggesting that you go on a couples retreat with your church. That's a nice idea, but to really have a great connection with your partner, you need to understand your own beliefs about relationships.

All of us have beliefs about how we should relate to the world and consequently, our partners. We think that we have to behave a certain way in order to get love and positive attention. These spiritual beliefs often color our physical world, and we operate based on them.

However, these same beliefs can also create distance between yourself and those you love. They seem like they are helping us get what we want, but actually they are creating the opposite outcome. Our beliefs cause us to manipulate reality and make it into the enemy.

There are five major belief patterns that most of us can operate through. Each belief intends to seek love and affection but can quickly turn into a "me-against-them" attitude and ends up backfiring on us. When we seek love and approval outside of ourselves, we always miss the mark.

Figuring out which belief is affecting your relationship is key to creating intimacy rather than distance with your partner. Once you realize how you are sabotaging your relationship, you can start making positive changes that will bring you closer.

The Five Relationship Belief Types

* The Resenter

In a relationship, this person is ready to offer up special dinners, back rubs and basically do any favor before even asked. This person loves to give, hoping that he or she will receive love and approval in return.

However, if this person does not get their specific needs met, the Resenter will grow resentful and doubt the relationship.

The Resenter will benefit from giving a little less and receiving a little more. Making sure that he or she asks for what he or she needs, as well as being able to say no to what isn't desired will help the Resenter feel appreciated without feeling taken advantage of.

* The Rejecter

This person chases the illusion of perfection. The Rejecter requires not only him/herself but his or her relationship to be just right.

When life turns messy, the Rejecter is either fixing it, or pushing others away when he or she can't. Letting anyone else see his or her shortcomings is inconceivable, and the Rejecter ends up rejecting others before they can be judged for their faults.

This person must be more relaxed about his or her idea of perfection and know that others will not reject him or her based on superficial details. Allowing things to be "good enough" will allow the Rejecter to open up to others and let them know he or she is loved anyway.

* The Controller

Although this person is extremely capable, the Controller tends to think that everyone else is inadequate. The Controller micromanages and distrusts others to the point that he or she is left holding all the responsibility.

This confirms his or her suspicion that he or she can't depend on anyone else, and the Controller pushes others away in order to avoid disaster.

If this type can just let go of the reigns and trust someone else's capabilities, the Controller will have more support and not feel so alone.

By accepting that there is more than one acceptable way to do things and that he or she can't possibly be in charge all the time, the Controller will allow others to show their admiration and affection for him or her.

* The Escaper

Due to a belief that the real world is dangerous, the Escaper often finds him/herself retreating into a safer, daydream world.

Because the Escaper spends more time checked out than present with his or her partner, the Escaper seems flaky and undependable and ends up isolated.

To cultivate a true relationship, this person needs to realize that he or she can cope with difficulty without retreating within him/herself.

The Escaper will feel safer in this world if he or she can stay present long enough to see that others will support and love him or her in the real world.

* The Taker

Someone who feels that he or she will never get enough frequently asks for too much from others. This person is constantly asking for things like attention, time or emotions but is never really satisfied. People get sucked dry and eventually push the Taker away, leaving him or her more depleted and empty.

It is crucial for this type to be more self-sufficient and less demanding of his or her partner. When the Taker realizes that he or she has an infinite source of love already within, he or she will easily share it through his or her sweet nature, rather than demanding it from others.

In each of these scenarios, there is a desire for love and approval, but the inner beliefs of each type build a defense or barrier that actually produces the opposite effect. They are unintentionally pushing the other person away without realizing it.

When you can objectively see how your beliefs are keeping you disconnected from those around you, you will be able to change them and be more open to a true relationship. Deepen your spiritual connection with yourself, and open up to the love that binds us all.

The amazing thing is that when you start to nourish and heal your chakras once and for all, you can experience more magical moments of bliss, happiness and contentment than ever. It's a wonderful feeling knowing that the power to create the life you want is within your control, and the chakras can help you get there.