Expectation, Judgment and Unconditional Love
Dr Raven Dolick MsD
Apr 2, 2016
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Most of the emotional pain that we feel is caused by having unrealistic expectations and judgment of others or ourselves. This is the basis for all of the emotional pain that we experience. The most harmful is the expectations that we have of ourselves and others, all those ‘should’ and ‘shouldn't’ that we impose on ourselves. ‘I should be skinnier.’ ‘I shouldn’t feel this way.’ ‘He ‘should’ love me this way.’ etc. Then, we judge because our expectations were not met.
Having expectations of others only sets us up for disappointment. We feel hurt when our partner does not give us enough attention, or they type of attention we feel they ‘should’. We may do something for another person with the expectation that they will return the favor, but they have no idea that we have that expectation. When our expectations are not met, we then go into judgment.
The opposite of judgment is Unconditional Love. Unconditional Love means having no expectations or judgments. It means accepting ourselves and others as we/they are.
Accepting what is will bring us into healing. When we accept ourselves and others just as we/they are, life becomes easier and more loving.
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